Times are tough, but you are tougher.
When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.
Some of us seem to have “all the time in the world,” but one thing is for sure: We have NO TIME for bad vibes, so we’re just gonna point out the elephant in the room. This is a tough time for everyone for so many reasons, so how do we deal with all these emotions? Now is the time to practice mental strength! We’ve been talking about worry and anxiety the last couple weeks and (let’s be real) this topic is more relatable even now.
Let’s remember that everyone deals with their stress in different ways — Some want distraction or entertainment and some want information or isolation. There are many combinations to all of these responses as well, and we’re here to say THAT’S OK! It’s fine not to feel fine — we’re all going through this together. It’s how you pick yourself back up that matters. Everyone’s individual safety takes priority and we hope we can help you hold onto your sanity as you figure out what that looks like.
Making puzzles or trying to put the pieces of your life back together?
You are currently stuck in your house, social distancing (as you should be) — probably scrolling through social media, sending all your friends relatable memes, or binging Love is Blind on Netflix (Team Cameron & Lauren)! If you’re a parent, you might be wrangling kids all day, worrying if you’ll have enough food and toilet paper, or just trying to find a space in your home to enjoy a second alone. We hear you! There is only ONE thing you can be certain of though: Your anxiety isn’t helping you. If we view ourselves as besieged victims who need to go into hiding, then we will cultivate fear and hoarding. BUT if we view ourselves as a community working hard to protect the most vulnerable among us, then we will cultivate courage and helping. Mindset matters.
Repeat after me: I am not going to allow my anxiety to take over my mind and ruin what could be a break from my normal routine.
Let’s use this moment in time to teach ourselves how to be calm and positive regardless of what is happening around us. Think about all the tips and tricks we’ve been practicing that last few weeks. Do this not only for yourself, but also for anyone that may look to you for support. Not to put any more pressure on you, but the reality is our friends, family and kids are watching us and are influenced by how we respond to stress and uncertainty. Let’s encourage the people around us to respond with resilience, not panic.
1 – Accept where you are. Work and classes are now online (if you are lucky enough). Hopefully this will be over soon, but for right now it is what it is. And social distancing is the right thing to do for now. If you accept where you are right now, your anger, sadness and frustration will start to lessen its grip on you. And hey! You don’t have to wear pants during a zoom call…no one will know you’re just chillin in your EBYs.
2 – Create a new routine. Getting on a schedule now is CRITICAL. We find comfort in predictability. It makes us feel safe. Get yourself (and your kids) on a schedule and you’ll feel more resilient. For some of you this means trying to complete a 500 piece puzzle (puzzles are really having a moment right now) and for others that means trying to get your kids out of bed before 10am and dinner made before 8pm.
3 – Reinvent your “self care.” Find one way you can make time for you. For me, that’s starting my day with a 30 min at-home workout — feels amazing and gets me energized for the rest of my day (yes I’m THAT person, don’t @ me). But maybe for you, it’s sitting down with a nice glass of wine at the end of the night, or watching an episode of The Circle. Also know, you do NOT have to take this time to be the next best selling author or podcast host (unless you really want to). Do what makes you feel comfortable and take care of yourself before anything else. Are you choosing something that energizes or relaxes you? Maybe both? As long as you are taking time for yourself, that is what is important.
We’re stronger together
Okay so what did we learn here? These are uncertain and overwhelming times right now, but we’re in this together. Community and connection are so important, so take a deep breath, wash your hands for 20 seconds, slip on your EBYs, and step into your power.
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